Dear Bloggy,

Seven years ago I broke up with a man that I consider "the one who got away." He was nice, had a stable job and often talked about marrying me. Still, I found him boring and felt I was too young for a commitment.

Fast forward seven years and after dating different, more exciting men who wouldn't settle down, I now regret breaking up with him. I am now ready to settle down and start a family and want to contact my ex to see if we can get back the romance we had. I truly believe we were each other's soulmate. I found him on Facebook and he doesn't appear to have a girlfriend.

I'm thinking of contacting him for Valentine's Day to see if he wants to see me. What do you think?

Signed,

Full of Regrets

Dear Regrets,

Many people pine for the person they believe is their one and only true love. However, they are often holding on to what the relationship could have been -- not what it was and will be in real life.

If you were to meet your ex-boyfriend, you will likely be reminded of the reasons you needed to escape the relationship. If you were bored by him once, what makes you think you're going to be fulfilled this time around? Soulmates fulfil one another; they don't leave each other to seek excitement.

People have different needs in a relationship.  I'm sure your ex is a perfectly sweet guy (he sounds like it.) However, you apparently need a different type of energy than this man can give. Don't let desperation for marriage and family cause you to settle for a scenario that has already proven unsatisfactory.

Furthermore, since you broke off the relationship and broke this guy's heart, I'm not sure re-entering his life is best for him.

Stop stalking him on Facebook. Stop looking to the past. Look forward. There is love out there that's new and meets all your desires. You just have to believe and open yourself to new opportunities.