Big, Beautiful Love

Bloggy, I'm at the end of my rope. I just don't get it. How can there not be a single, solitary guy out there who likes big girls? What's the problem? I don't believe it's a health issue, I don't even think it's logical. Are guys so easily influenced by society that they only want skinny, little girls? -Jannie

You're right, Jannie. It is illogical. So illogical that it must not even be true. Thankfully for plus-sized women, it's not true. Contrary to popular belief, there are actually plenty of guys who prefer that their women don't blow away in a strong wind. If there wasn't a genuine interest out there in larger women, websites like BBW Romance and BBW Date Finder wouldn't even exist. The truth is that there's no such thing as an undesirable person, just a person who isn't desirable for a specific individual. Of course there are a lot of guys who aren't attracted to large women. But there are also a lot of guys who aren't attracted to small women, or for that matter guys who aren't attracted to women who don't fall somewhere in the middle. There are guys who aren't attracted to women with certain lengths of hair, certain styles of dress or certain political leanings. There are guys who won't date a woman who has tattoos and other guys who won't date a woman if she doesn't have tattoos.

Human mating is complicated and wrought with picky quirks. Some are more common than others, but that doesn't mean there's such a thing as universally unattractive qualities. But don't blame the guys who prefer skinny girls. Sure, some of them are just carrying around a cultural bias, but we can't choose who we're truly attracted to. People like what they like, whether that's rational or not. That said, it's safe to assume than no one knows exactly what they do and don't like, or that people can't discover new desires in unlikely places. Of all the guys out there who are only into skinny girls, a portion of them would also be into big girls if they only gave them a chance. As for how to convince them to give it a go, the only way I can think of is personality. There's not nearly as much difference as one might think between liking a person and liking that person's body. All that considered, here's another email I've been saving up for just this occasion.

Ok, bloggy. Here's my problem. I think thick girls are beautiful. Like, not just in the figurative way, but physically beautiful. I want to be with a big woman but I'm afraid of other people like my friends being cruel about it. I mean, is this normal? Is this something I should even want? -Ken

See, Jannie? You shouldn't be angry with guys in general. You should be angry with the friends of guys who like big girls. Ken here is attracted to big women but he's concerned about how others will see him. So, for Ken and all the other guys out there who are attracted to larger women but are afraid to pursue that attraction, here's my advice: Grow the hell up.

There is nothing wrong with liking what you like. Why would there be? If your friends make fun of you for it, tell them to go jump in a lake. Ridiculing someone for liking a certain body type is like ridiculing someone for being gay. It's absurd, bigoted and likely based more on fear than anything else. This world would be a much happier place if the BBW-loving guys would come out of the closet and embrace their desires. Then ladies like the ones Jannie is defending will get the attention they deserve.